Monday, March 31, 2008
A weekend at the coast
We attended a memorial for my Uncle Buck this weekend. He passed after a battle with stomach cancer. He did not want a funeral- we had a small memorial service and then a covered dish luncheon/family reunion with his urn (ashes) present. At first everyone thought it odd that a formal funeral would not take place and questioned "closure" for the family. The short Memorial service and then the sincere gathering of family was actually refreshing. It left the formality and coldness associated with death behind and created an environment where people could hug, laugh, bring children along, and stay all day and socialize. We always say that we only see the family at funerals-- well at this particular service, it was designed to encourage the family to gather and not merely pay respects, but to visit with each other. And not just a nod to each other as you sign the guest register-- but to REALLY sit and talk. On the way home, I made up my mind right then that this is what I want when my time comes. Cremate me, and take my urn to a big covered dish luncheon where my friends and family can congregate and talk, laugh, cry, visit, gather in communal spirit, etc. This is how I live my life. This is how I want my life remembered.
As for the rest of the weekend, while we were at the coast, we let the boys have as much fun as we could fit in: parks, miniature golf, Build-a Dino workshops, playing with cousins, etc. -- they had a great time!
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Posted by Cassandra at 3/31/2008 01:01:00 AM